I have a plan to fix all my insecurities but height. I'm 16 and 5'6. shortest amongst my friend group. I have been feeling super anxious lately. I don't feel confident when I meet new people. My parents aren't that tall either. I'm trying my best to do what I can like exercise, maximising protein intake, hanging etc. I like to hope I will grow, atleast till 5'9 but idk this has been impacting my mental health a lot. I don't have anyone IRL who I can talk to about this so I'm writing here.
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You're still young man, you'll still grow but even if you don't, just feel happy about yourself and take care of the things you can control!
Exercise regularly, eat healthy, drink water, take care of your skin. You take care of your health and take care of the things you can control, you'll feel better about a lot of things going throughout the day and you'll gain more confidence in yourself.
Keep your head up! You're young and you have a lot of life to experience
that is the biggest myth about weight lifting. no scientific study shows that this is the case. of course doing TOO much of anything can cause injuries. So, weight lifting does not stunt growth, but you need to make sure that you are lifting right and in the correct form to prevent injuries long term. dont lift weights more than 5 times a day. make sure you rest properly and get in the habit of following a diet RESEARCH DIETS, they are more important but weights finalise it. if you make a habit out of getting a routine it will be easier later to have discipline.
Dont listen to these people who say, " youre fine, you will grow out of it". they are the ones that never tried and are bums now. you need to take ACTION right now. dont worry about timing. just be what you want to become NOW. life is short. take control. If you leave it till later, it will become more difficult because of the natural concept of age.
you should research creatine and how it will help you. there is no age restriction on it. in fact you can buy it without your parents consent. im not saying you should do this but you should research it thoroughly, use good sources, convince your parents to buy it. they may not listen to you but they will listen to science. sometimes parents believe in stupid myths, and its hard to convince them to have an open mind. keep in mind creatine can help but you need to be working out for it to actually have a real impact. also for weight lifting and cardio, you should be doing both.
but do NOT take my word for it, research for yourself and verify. never take things at face value.
Who tf cares about how tall you are. There's 0 reason to not feel confident when meeting people. Do you think people aren't going to like you just cause of your height or something? Because that's a braindead thought and even if someone didn't like you cause of your height, they're not a real one anyway. The only downside to being short is not being able to reach shit but that's nothing to be insecure about. If you wanna deal with your insecurity about height, you just need to accept that you are short and that you can't change it and move on.
Look at Zendaya and Tom Holland. The way I see it, if she cares about height, she wasn't worth it in the first place.
About mental health, I suggest reading some books about other people's experiences with short height, because at the end of the day if you don't reach the level you want to be you're only going to limit yourself further. This type of thing eats at your brain man, better to toughen up and learn that this is who you are.
Ok I have a question. How much facial hair do you have compared to men in your family like your dad or any brothers or uncles you may have? srry if this sounds creepy or anything but its often a decent indicator of how much more you have left to mature
For example, my dad is white and he's basically like a gorilla. He's covered in body hair from head to toe and has a bunch of facial hair. My mom is asian, and her brothers (my uncles) have a bit less hair but still have patchy bits of facial hair along their jawlines and around their mouths. As for me, I'm 17 about 180 cm tall (5'11 I live in the US but don't use feet and inches it sucks, cm and meters are way better) and have absolutely no facial hair even tho men on both sides of my family have more than me. Basically, my family/doctors and most others are saying that i'm likely to hit another growth spurt. :)
Then again, 🤔 there's some more drastic things you can always do like height lengthening surgery which I don't exactly recommend.
The global 16 year old male height is 5'7, about 170 cm. Don't feel bad m8. Everyone is different. There is no "perfect" person in this world. Your height is what makes you unique. 🤗
Hey that's a good sign. You're only 16. I remember growing quite a bit since when I was 16 about a year ago. There's no concrete way of checking if you're going to hit a growth spurt or not but things like comparing the amount of hair you have, deepness of voice, and other factors attributed to maturity are often decent indicators. ig the most professional way would be to go see a doctor and not take the advice of a vlr.gg user :)
My recomendation is: consider going to psychology, cuz maybe your insegurity it's a part of a deep emotions and situations, also keep do exercise, watch a online videos of exercise (a fitnness ytbers), doing exercise with others (in this case video) its so good.
I'm was in your situation many years ago, so be stronge, you got all dude 🤜
Going to be completely honest, I'm a similar situation to you. Around 5'8, 17, and one of the shortest in my friend group, it's really frustrating to not be as tall as others especially when people (although jokingly) compare heights all the time. From those with more life experience than me though, the one conclusion always stated is that appearance only matters for first impressions and afterwards, its all about personality.
Keep your head up, you'll probably still grow until you've hit like 21 so you should be fine. Even then, a person who's 5'6 and big, looks taller than someone who's taller but has a smaller build typically (this is something you can definitely work on whenever you want in your life).
life is what you make it. you can chose how you act on your own feelings, but you cant chose how others act on theirs, or theirs about you.
so dont worry what others think of you, worry about what you think of you, because you control that. you write your script, the hard part is deciding what to write, but that part is up to u
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