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How is the flashback situation not real? 💀
I didn't say the flashback situation wasn't real. I said the dichotomy you presented (either blindly believing someone's innocence or flaming the shit out of them) was not real.
Now for ur second point I’d have to disagree but I understand your perspective. Logically it’s good to distance yourself from people accused of things such as sexual assault and harassment. However, I would not want my close friends and family abandoning me during this time - especially if I literally didn’t do it. It’s always nice to have ppl that believe and support in your during your darkest times (one of which would be if you were falsely accused of a horrid crime and many casual associates started distancing themselves from you)
It does depend. For close friend's/family I do think it is reasonable for them to be more skeptical of accusations. My main point was that if they felt it was reasonable to distance themselves I would understand and I think that is a normal and valid response. Ultimately most of the response from close friends/family comes down to the specific context of the accusation to the point that I don't find much value in trying to litigate the precise boundary of when their support crosses a moral line. Obviously no one should be put in a spot where they harm themselves because of an allegation.
However, if an allegation is serious enough that family/friends have reasonable doubt as to whether or not they are real, I think that distancing yourself from the individual who was accused is the safe thing to do. Like, for instance, if the flashback allegation had come from a long term GF (4-5 years) who had deep relationships with the various pros he associated with and/or with his family I would expect them to not blindly espouse his innocence. Remember it isn't that you conclude that the accused committed the crime its that you have enough doubt as to whether or not they did the crime to be uncertain. That is the circumstance that I feel distance is mandated.
The main issue I take with this response is you assume that any allegation is going to come from an outside source with little to no association with your family or friends. This is not necessarily the case. However, seeing as the most common way we are exposed to these allegations is typically through twitter or some other social media platform, and because these allegations typically are directed at more famous people from less famous people, I can see why this framing is the first that jumps to mind.
Ok, the point of that comparison was not to simulate a possible scenario lol, it's to put into perspective how "innocent until proven guilty is worthless in real life" is a bit of an extreme sentence and not true in my opinion. It will be very mentally draining for a lot of people to have many associates and even close friends distance themselves all due to an allegation which could very well be untrue.
What I mean by innocent until proven guilty is -> I will not slander nor make personal judgements until I have collected enough information to make an educated statement/it is legally or de facto proven that they have done an activity. Basically, treat them as if they haven't done anything yet. This doesn't mean you have to full on support them or believe they must be innocent with no other possibilities.
I don't mean innocent until proven guilty" as in "I will blindly believe this person is innocent until it is proven by the courts they have done this."
Hmm, honestly i see your point and I agree that it's extremely reasonable to distance yourself from people who are accused of horrific crimes like rape (especially people you are not very close with - i.e a streamer)
I think i jumped to a couple conclusions on my end on what exactly you meant haha, but I'm glad we were able to fully explain our perspectives. I don't believe we honestly disagree on that much, i just misidentified the point of your original argument. In the end, I think while it's generally reasonable to distance yourself from people accused of crimes and disgusting behaviors, it always does depend on the situation and I personally hope that people I am close with would support me if I ever was accused of such a thing instead of immediately distancing themselves from me,
Regarding your final paragraph, I believe a very strong source of accusation would warrant some suspicion out of me, but this is why I said "I stand with innocent until proven guilty generally", and not "I always stand with innocent until proven guilty".
I am not saying any allegation will always be baseless and therefore everyone is innocent until proven guilty. The point I'm trying to make is that it's generally beneficial to not immediately assume someone is guilty of their accused crime when allegations come out, especially if they are not developed.
This does bring an interesting point up though, I don't think we are arguing from different ends on a topic. We probably just have different interpretations of the statement "innocent until proven guilty" applied to daily life. Thus, unless you have like any glaring contradictions or errors in my statements that you need to correct or for me to explain something -> I'm gonna end this conversation here to not stall this specific thread any longer. I don't personally think there's anything odd about your general point of view on this topic that I would want to question anymore.
Have a great day/night!
I respect your point of view and i appreciate you for elaborating on it.