relationship advice

#1

PagMan

UPDATED: comment #45

dear dating practicers of vlr, please enlighten me

im friends with this girl from college, cool, we did group projects together a few times when we were in the same class, i like her but never tought about doing something about it for fear of losing a friend, but today i gave my sweatshirt to her because she was feeling cold, then we went to our respective classes, at the end of the day, one friend of mine that is from her class, told me that their professor was talking to her and said that she saw us both, asked if i was her boyfriend because i gave the sweatshirt, then she answered "not yet"

now im like this:😶
what should i do, ask her out because now i know that she likes me, or wait for her to ask me because she said not yet, or maybe kms

#2

cataboo

21

Frags

+

–

as a dating expert who has never been with someone else, you should try the 3rd option

#45

PagMan

4

Frags

+

–

Some people told me to update this so here it goes 👇 (WARNING: CRINGE)⚠️

after reading yall comments, i believed that the #10 was the best one, so that was what i did(kinda).

here, every class ends at 11:30am, so almost everyday at that time our friend group leaves together by foot until the subway station, i do that aswell even though i have a car, because i dont wanna spend money on gasoline, but today i went to college with the car because i came with a plan
(i only noticed how creepy this is after doing it D:)

the plan: i tell them that today i would go to a friends house (that is in the same direction as her house) to help him build his pc, so i offer them a free ride, only her and another friend lives in this direction, so we 3 went by car, luckly the guy's home is closer than hers, so after some time its just us in the car, and i said that i was hungry and would eat at a restaurant that is close to her house and told her that if she wants, she can eat with me too and that i can pay for her food.
she accepted it fast surprisingly

normally im very comfortable talking with her, but in the restaurant i was actually so nervous, but thankfully she was saving it by mantaining the conversation.
after that i drove her home, and while she was leaving the car she said thank you to me, and i replied with: "no, thank you, i really like spending time with u :)"
she fake smiled, blushed and said "no problem" and went inside

idk if im tweaking, but it seemed like she was uncomfortable with my saying, now i am dying inside and feel like shit because i feel like now she knows the "going to my friends home" was just an excuse

i could just die 🙂

#47

CryoZanderDerrekEnjoyer

3

Frags

+

–

youre overthinking it champ

#49

PagMan

0

Frags

+

–

i hope so, i mean, she did say "not yet" when asked if i was her boyfriend, but after today i think it was probably a light hearted joke

#62

PagMan

0

Frags

+

–

ty for the message you sent, i saw it but idk why im not able to reply it, so i will throw it here

today was actually perfect, the first thing she said when she saw me today was that yesterday she was kinda of embaressed and couldnt respond properly, but that she did enjoy the time with me aswell, and that she would pay the next time :)

#63

Epicgamer69

0

Frags

+

–

lmao this is what women mean when they say men can't catch hints

she is all over you bro

#64

CryoZanderDerrekEnjoyer

2

Frags

+

–

rizz god

#48

NneonZz

4

Frags

+

–

I BELIEVE IN YOU. BECOME THE FIRST VLR USER TO GET A GIRLFRIEND

#61

cocoluna

0

Frags

+

–

Pretty sure Babysauske has 6 Gfs

#65

NneonZz

1

Frags

+

–

6 victims*

#52

moomoomoomeadows

0

Frags

+

–

no i think she wanted you to kiss her (possible explanation, sounds like she was nervous too)

#53

ionlyHave1Zuni

0

Frags

+

–

yup ur finished buddy

#3

KyLZi

5

Frags

+

–

yeah, go for it bud. its better than remaining awkward friends. also, it sounds like it's assured.

#4

Gratis

16

Frags

+

–

Ask for your sweatshirt back duh

#5

bronzil_enjoyer

1

Frags

+

–

bro's back after a year 🗿

#7

PagMan

0

Frags

+

–

im a lurker 🗿

#6

nutab1e

0

Frags

+

–

that last thing you said

#8

NebularCarina

-9

Frags

+

–

kinda crazy that you're asking that here ngl, but jokes aside:

i'd recommend that, before you ask her out, ask her if she was serious about the "not yet" comment, to figure out if she does like you, as she may have meant it as a joke. if it was a joke, don't risk it, as it will make things even more awkward; and if it was serious, then go ahead.

#31

DSGFan

8

Frags

+

–

terrible advice. Do not follow this. Do not ask her if she made a joke; it will come across weird that you heard about and then are asking her.

Just go for it.

#9

SAMPV6

4

Frags

+

–

Definitely go for it, you don't wanna be wondering "what if" later in life, so just ask if she wants to go on a date and hope things will work out well!

Good luck o7

#10

whitebeans

13

Frags

+

–

dont ASK her ab the comment LMAO this isnt high school. if she doesnt like u and u ask her ab it then its basically awkwardness forever and it wont be the same. u said already that you had studied and stuff before so see if she wants to get lunch after a class. do something that isnt related to school and see if yall still have the same vibe. if so then let her know u enjoyed the time and u really like her and then see if she feels the same. u dont gotta rush and seem desperate.

#26

kaninv

3

Frags

+

–

by far the best comment

#32

DSGFan

3

Frags

+

–

Thank god there are people with brains. This is the comment to follow.

#35

randomperson

1

Frags

+

–

listen to this
basically the only good advice

#11

Tacitus

3

Frags

+

–

Ask her out pussy

#12

Kai__

0

Frags

+

–

Whatever you do keep us updated 🫶

#46

PagMan

0

Frags

+

–

i did, #45

#60

Kai__

0

Frags

+

–

NICEE BROO...JUST GO WITH THE FLOW WHATEVER HAPPENS WILL BE FOR THE BEST <3 ...IM ROOTING FOR YOU <3333

#13

1mBor3d

1

Frags

+

–

ask her out she is literally waiting on you to ask her the more you wait the more you risk her saying no

#14

Grimoire

✔

-7

Frags

+

–

u already lost asking for advice from vlr forums

#34

Moiraine

2

Frags

+

–

Shut your cringe ass up

#51

yaiima0

0

Frags

+

–

Ratio bozo

#59

Moiraine

0

Frags

+

–

DENIED bozo

#39

Poge

0

Frags

+

–

Sir. I think you forgot how many talented individuals are on this forum. We have the pro fps players like Poge then we have the Lyricists like Poge we also have songwriters like Poge. Neurologists like Poge. Physisicist among the likes of Poge. Bakers like the one and only Poge and dating advisors like cataboo

#54

not_biased_at_all

2

Frags

+

–

Blud said this while being verified on VLR 💀

#15

SeizVlr

0

Frags

+

–

I'll give you advice since im feeling nice, just ask her out on a calm little 'date' if you wish to call it like that. Don't bluntly ask 'can you be my girlfriend' makes things less awkard and with the date you will show romantical interest in her

#16

yaiima0

1

Frags

+

–

We’re all virgins with no hoes here, wrong place to ask

#40

Poge

1

Frags

+

–

not false ☝😂👏👏👏👏

#17

Frogzay

0

Frags

+

–

just ask her out

#18

cartixuzi

0

Frags

+

–

w fanfic

#41

Poge

0

Frags

+

–

w fnatic

#19

cioccolat

1

Frags

+

–

dont listen to these virgins, ask her out to a picnic (if u believeboth of u like that)
spend some quality time with her without mentioning the dating, then at the end of the date, ~~you k1ll yourself~~
you ask her if she wants to date cuz you want to date her.

#20

babysasuke

0

Frags

+

–

dont listen to these virgins, ask her out to a picnic

expert advice right here guys 💀

#21

cartixuzi

0

Frags

+

–

babysasuke i wanna go on a picnic with u is that alr?

#22

nutab1e

1

Frags

+

–

he's booked.

#23

babysasuke

0

Frags

+

–

You don't want to include him in our picnic plans for next weekend?

#24

cioccolat

2

Frags

+

–

stfu virgin, picnics are nice, romantic and fun. also cheap. perfect choice

#27

xSaneZ

0

Frags

+

–

I agree, it doesnt really matter what it is as long as you're both enjoying it. That's why the people replying to you are virgins, need to stop hating on everything and be more open minded

#28

CryoZanderDerrekEnjoyer

0

Frags

+

–

dont let him tell you, picnics are a great idea. atleast youre trying to help.

#29

cioccolat

0

Frags

+

–

i have yet to meeta decent woman who does not enjoy a well put picnic. even if she is more of a home person, a picnic at night in a more reserved part of the park is still nice, or next to the lake.

#30

babysasuke

0

Frags

+

–

stfu virgin, picnics are nice, romantic and fun. also cheap. perfect choice

expert advice right here guys 💀

#25

benjy

1

Frags

+

–

sounds like something that happened to me

#33

moomoomoomeadows

0

Frags

+

–

ask her out. "do you want to go get x meal and then see y movie together?" "do you want to go on a hike at x beautiful location and ill pack a picnic?" "do you want to come over to my place and ill cook you a meal?" i believe in you dude

#36

HardStuckGold

0

Frags

+

–

ask her to watch valorant with you ong

#37

spicytuna

0

Frags

+

–

get on your knees and scream "PLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASE" it will work i promise

#42

Poge

0

Frags

+

–

omg i cringed 😅😅😅😆😆😆😫😫😫😫🤐🤐🤐🤐

#38

Tramadol

0

Frags

+

–

Go for it, i bet you guys will have a great, loving time together.
Then she'll leave you.
I'm sorry but that's a canon event we can't avoid lol.
Totally worth it tho.

#43

Poge

0

Frags

+

–

end things come to meet the invevitable for the last time of only good last the and bad things for good.

#44

Number_1_Sheydos_Fan

0

Frags

+

–

Ask her if shes into you and then depending on her answer ask her to be your gf

#50

benmaimoon

0

Frags

+

–

forget her and keep grinding bro

#55

Prathades

0

Frags

+

–

I got 2 answer. First just leave her bro, she's not worth it.
Second is that, just go for it. Ask her out for some lunch or coffee or any place than cost less than 50$ since more than that either makes the other party uncomfortable or she'll think that if you do anything less than you're broke. When you hang out make sure to talk about each other not just answering question and get to know her. If she declines your invitation than that's it, just ask if you can still be friends and no harm done.

#56

CristanchOx

0

Frags

+

–

rela what? Go grind lil bro

#57

moshimoshiman24

0

Frags

+

–

tell her that u have feelings for her and that u r open to exploring them with her if she is. If she is u guys can just hangout nothing has to b serious. Then eventually when u feel the time is right ask her to b your gf. Just b honest and open with her.

#58

Asuna_Yuuki

0

Frags

+

–

Of course bro!

If the feeling is mutual you should ask her!