If that's the case with your friends then there's two possibilities. Either they're bad friends, which tends to happen quite often, or you're too attached and expect too much of them, which is a personal issue a lot of people have had to deal with at some point, myself included. Either re-evaluate your friend group or try to reset your expectations of a friend, depending on how you feel the issue is playing out.
If that's the case with your family, then that's a bit tougher to deal with. There's not much you're telling us, and there's not much I'm comfortable asking because I respect your privacy, so my one out-there suggestion is to try to connect with them in a different way. Maybe instead of talking to them on the phone, you show up and be a present part of their lives. Maybe instead of just being there and having conversation, you find something nice to do with them. Again, not really sure about this one.
And I need to make this very clear: if you're struggling with your social life, the absolute WORST thing that you can do is become an alcoholic. Trust me when I say nothing good comes out of it.
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