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valvenq

I think I'm in love with this girl, like I don't understand what I'm feeling. Everytime we talk it just makes me heart beat, and everything we don't talk I just can't stop thinking about her. Not gonna sound weird but I've never been interested in anyone before, so this is all very new. I want to confess my feelings just so I can make sense of it, but I feel like I am going to mess it up somehow, like she is my soul mate or something.

Half the users on this site will probably never touch a girl in their life so I am not expecting much.

Edit: She said yes!

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blicey

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u are part of those half users just saying

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valvenq

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Never denied it

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hiyo

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ur prob 20, 300 pounds, living in ur mom's basement what chance do you think you have

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valvenq

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im skinny + tall + ratio + more chances with ur mom

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Yo you just killed this man

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ck347

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why u have to do him like that

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HOLY SHIT DUDE xD

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damn this guy has no chill

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Thomaslee

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His team is winning lol so idt he cares

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kkkkkkkkkkkkkkk true

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You're just infatuated and perhaps a bit inexperienced. It's not that big of a deal. Just ask her out casually and take her response like a man, good or bad. Don't go all crazy confessing your love like some puppy dog, that ain't the move.

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valvenq

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Don't go all crazy confessing your love like some puppy dog, that ain't the move.

If you didn't tell me I would've barked and called her mommy ... All jokes aside, thanks for the advice.

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If she has this kind of fetish u might do , at least i did 👀

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All good bro. Best of luck to you.

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depends on how much you guys talk

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valvenq

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Can't say all the time... But very close to it. Both IRL and text. It's kinda weird because I talk to other people as well, but it's so different when it's with her.

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does she show any signs of liking you ( for example : smiling when you talk , shes just different when she talks to just YOU, and she stares and you kinda?)

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valvenq

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can't tell because of masks, but the eyes show a lot of expression 2. don't know if it's just me (I hope not, that would kill me)

What I do notice is that she asks a lot of questions and is very observant. For the staring it's kinda hard to explain, I can feel her stare when I'm talking but other than that it's hard to notice.

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W shoot ur shot

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valvenq

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Bro all these signs make me so confused, I think I'm blind with love that I cannot feel if it's mutual or not man...

Lol I'll shoot my shot when she's free.

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lemme know how it goes

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Rooting for you man, we'll need a progress report after you mention it to her

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all you need to do is to stop your heart from beating👍👍

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if you keep that mentality it won't go anywhere, asking for help from an online forum filled with teenagers won't help either. go off your own instincts, and if you just do you then don't even worry about trying to date her, it'll come naturally

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Okay seriously, there is this girl who keeps texting me all the time. I never text her first, she keeps texting me almost every day. She keeps asking me to play games, i keep making excuses for me to not play with her, but she STILL keeps inviting me as if it wasnt obvious that im not interested.
So today i finally joined a game with her. We played a game, and she was begging me to vc. We vc'd a little and when the game ended i told her i have to leave again giving an excuse.
How can i tell her without hurting her that im not interested?

Like, dont get me wrong, she is so pretty ngl, but i just cant be bothered rn

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asdfghjkl

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be straight up and why can't you be bothered rn (just a question).

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Real advice, and sounds pretty mean but just dont read or reply her text. Unless u sure the girl really likes u. If u tell her directly, she could end up only being nice and friendly and dont feeling in love with u. Just ignore her and she get the message and move on. Just dont do it suddenly ignoring her, try longer pace replying text and later ignoring her completely

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Asphyxia

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lol this is a copy pasta from a while back.

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Aight

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I can think of a few ways rn which might or might not work

Reply late
I mean like if she keeps texting you reply to each text after like 10 mins
By that, she might stop texting you often.

Extreme method
In between a random convo,
Talk about someone to whom u have been crushing on (prolly imaginary idrk)
That would be fun

Cant think of anything more gotta get back to studying

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Asphyxia

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Ohhhhh. I forgot that ur still a more recent user. This was a copypasta from a while back lol.

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😡

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asdfghjkl

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i dont upvote myself buddy

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asdfghjkl

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lemme know how it goes

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valvenq

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She said yes

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Basedobserver

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Ask Sinaatra i heard he's good with women

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valvenq

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Never take no for an answer

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manca

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just ask her out to dinner or lunch or something
DONT confess ur feelings

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valvenq

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What else am I supposed to do with these feelings then

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manca

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just dont confess them till after dinner (assuming you actually took her out)

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AsianGuy

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Give it a shot young man(If you are younger than me). It's not bad to try, but why are you posting it here on VLR? You can get better answers on Reddit. I hope what happened to me doesn't happen to you kekw.

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valvenq

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vlr is goated for unexpected advice that I would say is better than reddit. I've already asked reddit too, but they all say the same thing

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VeLooZ

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i know how u feel. Cause its also Happened on me when i first time date or somethings.
so Its mean like u already falling love with her. and its easy just keep going with her. u will Date with her and u got it.
and u need to know this not permanent u feel it . it will be dissapear when u already often Date with her and sometimes u will felt bored with her. its all dpeend how u make ur bored to Happiness

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valvenq

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Thanks for sharing your experience. Seems like it will take time to wear off, which I can tolerate :)

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your feelings aren't as fleshed out as you think they are realistically you're just young and in puppy love it happens

go talk to her more and if shes responding well ask her out thats all you can do

might seem like shes """""THE ONE""""" but that shit doesn't exist, you'll meet tons of ppl in the future that will click on a personal level like this so dont stress over it

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i'd say just go for it. don't think about how you're gonna mess it up. just go out there and try, you will thank yourself even if you fail it.

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fatpoipoiiii

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How about going on a date first so u can confirm her feelings? If u straight up confess there might be a chance ruining ur friendly relationship. Just ask her to go to movie or something. If she agrees, thats green light. If not, then woopsie try getting closer too her first and try again later

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spookmeister

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W U GOT THIS MAN
good luck, post update pls

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nikoya

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Ask her out. Don't rush things, take it slow, and have fun with it. It's not the end of the world if she says no. Better than leaving your feelings unresolved and having regrets.

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Vortexy

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sounds like Sage advice

bu dum crash

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nikoya

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no.

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yes :)

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:0

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D:

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:|

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:/

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:_

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;/

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Aight

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All I can say is good luck

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do it, the worst that can happen is her saying "no"

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valvenq

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https://imgflip.com/i/541j2k

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Good luck man...I hope for a W

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valvenq

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Thanks man

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Yo gl man. I might confess soon too.

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Talk to her about it. Even if she says no, you have something off your chest. If she really is your soulmate and you miss the opportunity, what are the chances you will ever meet her again? I always say this, but you live life once. What's life with a few twists and turns, mistakes being made, but most importantly having fun and loving. Tell me how it goes after. GL :)

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yaiima0

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Shoot ur shot and if she says no don’t press further, play it cool.

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BonkeMonke69

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confess ur feelings, if she says no then tell her it was a dare or sum idk. KEKW

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Ryan9500

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W

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good shit my boy

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valvenq

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haha thanks 😊

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gj

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then try to get bj? haha

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Golem

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W

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this guy living in some romantic film ...good luck lol

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valvenq

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thanks

#71

KiwisAreAwesome

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THE EDIT
LETS GOOOOOOOOOOOO

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yaiima0

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CONGRATS MY GUY. W

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deathlyclaws

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LFG.......W

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She said yes
"Yes, I'll be filing charges"

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fortnite_gupta

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PROUD OF YOU MY FRIEND!!1

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I guess you just need to focus on enjoying your time with her and not always think about how this relationship will end up like

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aotdstix

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hell yeah man congrats

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Aight

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If it's true, congrats!
And also tell us what went down

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LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

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plas

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SHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

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CONGRATZ!!!

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Ibis

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Its 3am here and I’m down bad so I will comment my situation maybe someone answers. There is one girl I dated for 6 months that i loved. But in the end she didn’t wanted to be too close and only wanted like sexual things
I decided to end it, but 1-2 months after the breakup I was drunk and texted her a long message she responded very lovely to.
She offered that we can meet again to talk about how things went and to clarify things etc. Idk if I should do it because I have still feelings and maybe I’m not happy after the „date“.
On the other hand there is a girl who loves me probably but I don’t want a relationship with her 🤕 what should I do

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Aight

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Try r/relationship_advice
Reddit

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tell her u are friends with mitch and u get all the bitches cause MITCHES BITCHES