genuine question i have 0 rizz
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how to get girls
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okay as someone who has a ton of female friends and genuinely relate with you, you just gotta find the right person. I promise it's not anything you do, and i haven't done this, but you could potentially ask one of your friends if they could set you up with someone. there are benefits to having female friends(and no i don't mean sexual) and tbh i value them over male friends cuz they give such good advice
Heya! To be fair, my girlfriend asked me out so I'm not all too knowledgeable on this. However, if I had to provide some tips, I would suggest for you to:
- Keep to one girl who you're truly interested in and invest as much time as possible into interacting with her, whether that is online or in person. (Only works if you are looking to commit to someone)
- Play it slow. A lot of younger people I see nowadays really just put their feet on the pedal during relationships. Take it slow, don't get burnt out too soon.
- Be yourself. Be authentic. Don't try to be someone you aren't, it'll never work out in the end.
I know, this stuff seems very basic and "well, duh", but this is all I got on a rather basic level as I do not know about your context. Cheers mate!
- (don't play games bro, u don't need a gf if ur doing it for the shits and giggles)
- (keep it in your pants, try to realize that its infatuation not love
- Be yourself, Be authentic, moreover don't actually change when you figure out they do like you, they subscribed to the person they started to like not the person whos trying to keep them interested (personal experience)
in all honesty I don't know where you're located and how old you are but dating apps are hated but not a bad option if you aren't a very socially outgoing person and tend to have people who are similar (and most of the time means they are more online and might share more interests)
if you are under 18 and still in school I'd just take any opportunity you get to hang out or do something even just with other people with someone you might like and build the relationship. if you get the feeling it isn't gonna happen, move on. if it seems to be going well, just continue and hope it works out
since no one is really giving you a straight answer, i'll tell you how i met my gf
i met her through quick add on snapchat. before you tell me im a degen and that she's probably a bop, let me give you more context. last year, i really wanted a gf so i decided i'd just quick add every girl i saw. I had some talking stages, but tbh it was just very exhausting and i decided i didn't really want to focus on having a gf. i started the snap thing in september and stopped around mid november. fast forward a week or two later, and im at a swim meet, bored out of my mind. im scrolling through snapchat, just snapping everyone, and then i decide i want to snap more people because im still bored so i just quick add some people. little did i know, i'd end up adding my gf. The next day, i was stuck once again at the swim meet, on snapchat. Then, I send a random half snap of my face and my quarterzip. my quarterzip has my school logo and it says "swim and dive". I open up a snap, and surprisingly it said "wait i think we swam against your school the other week". i was honestly really surprised and i was excited cuz i was bored and i could finally talk to someone, and more specifically about swim. I didnt even have the faintest idea of trying to rizz her, i was just genuinely bored. I was like "omg wait really? what school to you go to?" and then she replies with her school, and i realize that she goes to the school basically right next to mine, and then we just start talking about swim. She only swims for school and it's not her main sport so i might have started bragging a bit, but i wasn't trying to get her to like me, i just wanted to keep the convo going since i had finally found someone to talk to. The conversation honestly just went from there. we talked for like two months, and in that time we got to know each other and it was great. then we went on a date, and then another, and then another, and on the third date, i asked her to be my girlfriend.
if you dont want to read all that, here's some pointers:
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first and foremost, don't try to make it seem like you want to date. my gf at the time we met wasn't really looking for a relationship and that honestly made it so much easier. the convo was fluid and wasn't forced and it felt like friends talking
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BE RESPECTFUL. do not try and push her to go farther than she wants to. idk your age, but i was 16 and i made sure that she felt comfortable and that she was able to take the relationship at the pace she wanted.
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dont make it all about yourself. im more of a listener so i love when people are the one telling stories and stuff and i jsut reply and stuff so maybe it's dif for people
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ask questions. the most important one that lowkey made me land her was "what's your favorite show?" she said gilmore girls and i was like "oh wait some of my friends have seen that. i should start watching it". at that point i was kinda starting to consider having a relationship, so i decided to learn all about her interests and that is so key. i told her about every episode and i'd tell her about all the characters that pissed me off and she loved it. call me a simp, but it worked.
also, my hair was kinda long back then and ngl it was so bad, but she still liked me and liked me for who i am.
the bar is REALLY low, so as long as you look decent, have a good personality, you're kind and respectful, and you show interest in her, you'll be surprised how far that really goes
just dont be a dick
ok rant over. sorry for the yap and you prob won't read this but it's okay
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