i need advice

I currently have no life, I have read over 1000 mangas and over 100 animes, probably 20 Light novels, really bad porn addiction, I jack off like 1 time a day, basically I have no life rn, I feel like trash, being a fan of this shit sucks, I look back at my old self and I regret treating my ex gf like trash always getting mad at her whenever she would disturb me or call me while I’m playing, and only chatting her when I need notes for school, I can’t even look at people irl anymore, I would get invited but would turn them down because I would rather talk to them online than let them see my pathetic self, I easily get mad at my parents and siblings as well as cousins, I can’t even do good at school anymore, and im always getting forgetful by the day, do you have advice on how I can improve on myself

I really reflected on myself when I saw
ME! ME! ME!
good ending
and porn facts by Mio Honda

I’m asking vlr.gg users because I would rather stay anonymous and ask what strangers would do, than to embarrass myself asking advice from families and friends, I was going to do this on twitter but many of my irl friends follow me there, plus this is the only forum site I know aside from hltv, but hltv guys are freaks and you guys seem a bit calmer, please share any piece of advice you can down below

Start doing yoga ,maditation , gym and listen to music more.....You should have a hobby or just study to distract yourself....

bruh try more socialize with other person

As long as you are recognizing your own faults and flaws as a person, you should be able to correct them with time
Also maybe try talking to your parents too, they are they people that love you the most, they would try their best to help you out of your situation, or even an older sibling
Also, ur friends wont see you as pathetic if they are true friends

thanks for the advice guys it means a lot

i recommend exercising and stretching! !it might seem not related, but it can totally help you! you don't need to do the hard ones instantly, go incremental! and meditation!

idk bro
i hate myself...i was totally changed compared to before pandemic and after pandemic.
i am not able to be myself (before pandemic).
:(

the fact that you want help and are admitting to your faults already shows that you're improving yourself so you're doing great and keep it up! :)

i'd say the small things really help keep me sane. like keeping up with basic hygiene, taking time for yourself, exercising, etc. focus on making yourself okay first; once you do that, it's easier to be a kinder person to others which will repeat the cycle

Take it one step at a time and be in the moment whether it's at school, with friends, family, etc; it's not gonna be perfect. Making progress is the goal, there's no such thing as a perfect life or a flawless individual, and even the smallest amounts of progress count

And you can always come back to vlr or talk to your online friends or strangers about life. you got this! I'm really proud of you, stranger :D

I jack off like 1 time a day

That's a lot? 0-0

Self reflection is good, you made the first step.

Honestly a lot of ppl have porn addiction if I remember the stats correctly, I think it's something that can be fixed later, and as long as it isn't literally impacting your way of thinking, it should be fine. There are some great videos on this stuff, the first month or so is very hard though, so I would delegate it to a month with very low stress, because otherwise decision fatigue will legit either make you fail or be even more stressed. Afterwards, you will feel much better about yourself.

A lot of these things feel like just byproducts of stress and laziness COVID, as most people have stated, exercising or meditation will get a lot of the stress out and just get your mental back into place.

Imo, I feel like getting a tutor is huge help though, it's not going to make you feel better about yourself, but it will tackle 2 of your current problems: School and human interaction. It gives yourself an excuse to learn more and feel like a better person, it doesn't even need to be math, it can be English, Science, Social studies, literally anything as long as you feel as though you can have enough passion to have meaningful conversations on the subject and actually care about it.

I guess hitting the gym and getting a diet is def the best option, but I know it's hard, because as much as people say it's only 30 minutes, you only have so many 30 minutes in a day. Try just doing like 20 squats or even just 10 pushups, as long as it's some movement, it will at least brighten your brain. I just do like 40 squats before each val match just to get some adrenaline going, because it helps me play more consistently LOL.

Whats the porn fact by mio honda? Also kaname momojiro and yume nikaidou more good

i don't jack off not bcs its not healthy but bcs to me it means not being able to control ur impulses start goin to gym and find passion and do that

Set yourself a goal, so you have something to strive for.
Practice some good habits and you will forget about your problems sooner or later.

focus on doing more productive things every day, even if you only are able to do a little bit more, that is still progress and you are doing more than the day before

this especially applies to the porn addiction since nobody is able to just quit overnight, if you do it every day, start off by just not doing it for a whole day, if you can get 7 days a week down to 4-5 days a week that is a lot of progress

On the top of my head, start doing something you think is cool but have never tried, start biking, learn how to cook, draw, take photos and edit them, watch movies and tv shows. you will probably not like 80% of the things you try but that way you can learn more about yourself as a person.

One thing i noticed from your text is that you are feeling guilty, and i strongly recommend that once you start getting to know you more you should start doing amendments to the people you think you were rude to, your family and your ex gf.

Congrats on being able to talk about it, it takes courage to do it and we're here to help you, if you need anymore help, ask for it and we can talk on twitter.

damn bro u only jack of once a day?
u shud be proud
ive descended to unprecedented levels
all u have to do is close ur pc and get out of the house more and ig stop watching anime
try having a goal in life and give ur 100% TO ACHIEVE IT

jacking off once a day is normal dont worry abt it and there are ppl who read 10000+ mangas so i dont really think you have problems

Jacking off once a day isn’t that bad

Everyone here giving you a lot of great advices. Choose the one that you are more into, id say gym is the bread and butter for everyone.
So goodluck acro, hope you can be the one you want to be!

Something that helps me with my struggles is reading the Bible and praying. I know not everyone would want to do that but it helps me and could help you

Beating your meat is actually good 👍 just dont do 10 times everyday

Homies broken eh,
This might be help but might be not helping you at all
But I'm sure this is the fastest way if it works for you.

tl;dr you're too soft,

I have been in an eerily similar situation where I had way too many manga that I had read, didn't talk to anyone, treated ppl around me like shit, preferred texting over socializing, masturbating too much. The first thing I did was quit cold turkey over the manga and anime. I deleted all of the apps off of my phone and went into parental controls to physically block sites where I could access them. I'm assuming your in school, so I would also suggest joining clubs, volunteering, and just finding hobbies that will do more help than harm. Like other people said, going to the Gym is very helpful, but it's also a hard commitment to make, so you don't have to force yourself on a strict regimen. Maybe set a goal like twice a week or smth. On your fear of people thinking that you're pathetic: try to not to pay attention to them. Try to find people who accept you, and stick with them. If you can't find any irl using school, try socializing with people in a hobby (one reason why I recommend volunteering). Finally, if you're old enough, and this is going to sound very strange but, find a part time job. Doesn't have to be a service job, but that could also be beneficial. Being forced into an uncomfortable social situation will feel really strange and/or horrible at first, but soon you will probably find yourself making friends with coworkers. I know this is a lot to do and it is a drastic change, as I'm still struggling to improve myself on a lot of these aspects, but since I've done all this, my mentality has been much better. Hope this helps ^_^

All good

Sometimes we do people wrong because we don't know how to do right by somebody. Because doing right by people takes practice, like everything does. What would I do in your situation? To get out of the emotional rut? I'd start volunteering at school. Try helping more around the house. Like clean the garage for Dad. Do the gardening for mom. And don't backtalk anyone. Try letting other people have the last word. Then you'll see your life improve. Because all in all, we have to pick our own battles. That's how we succeed.