I need help. [allat]

Today I had quite an experience. I don't know how to feel about this so want to ask what you people think. I am mostly absent on most social media and this is the only forum which I remotely lurk on.

I am a college student pursuing computer science. I had an interview lined up for software engineer role in my dream company (it's a search engine tech giant). I think I was as prepared as I could be. I had best gpa from my batch. I have solved 600-800 problems on leetcode. I am a master on codeforces, 6 star on codechef and have won 5-6 international hackathons. I am from one of the top universities from my country. I have experiences working in all technical domains be it fullstack, devops, AI, etc.

There was this other girl who is in hostel as well. I noticed she had also somehow qualified for the interview process despite solving only half the test qruestions those also partial. meanwhile I had a perfect score of 1200/1200 (only guy in the entire university). The weekend before interview she went to parites and attended club events (told to me by my loyal sources). She also had zero competitive presence on the internet but was an instagram influencer.

Now we both gave our interviews and I dont want to elaborate on that else this post will become unreadable. Basically i got a dynamic prpgramming as well a hard dp with graph problem. And i solved both of them meticulously and optimally and the interviewer was content with my answers as well. Apart from that we also discussed my past experiences and technical skills. I dont know what happened in her interview so not going to comment on that.

Today, results were announced and as you can guess she got selected and I didnt (thats why the post). Now according to my sources in our training and placement department, I came to know that they had a much lenient criteria for women. Basically there threshold was much much much lower for women .

Now. I am so confused as to how am I getting robbed of opportunities just because who I was born as. My family faced many many difficulties in bringing me up financially and we sacrificed many relations and social status for my studies. Even though I am confident enough that I can still bring the best to my family, I am genuinely confused why is everything so generalized in our societies suddenly. That girl has a rich family and she probably doesnt even care about the job money which could have been invaluable to my family. I just want to know what you guys think of me thinking like this. I am very confused and depressed.

i was having fun at the waterslide when suddenly i noticed a big shadow covering the entire pool i looked up and there i saw him, Ardiis. He was coming straight for me, he jumped into the pool and the velocity of the wave that followed knocked me unconcious.

When i woke up i was chained in a cold and dirty room and there he was, streaming the popular shooter game VALORANT on Twitch while talking to his chat, somehow he managed to say the word "bro" 254 times in just 3 sentences how is that even possible?? I quickly realised that the chains were actually made of chocolate, confused (and mainly hungry) i started licking and sucking them as fast as i could and managed to crawl out of the room -that i presumed was probably his mothers basement- while remaining unseen.

I searched around the house for an exit and i quickly found the front door. As soon as i exited the building i saw a horde of angry Brazilians holding blowtorches and pitchforks chanting at ardiis and calling him a racist and a loser. I didn't really care so i tried to get out of the scene as soon as possible but just as i was about to step out of the house, ardiis put his enormous hand on my shoulder and whispered with a soft and melodic tone in my ear "You're not going anywhere pumpkin pie" and "Daddy's gonna take care of this swifly". He stepped out of the house and suddenly yelled "WATCH THIS" as he flamboyantly dashed into the air and suddenly made 5 knives materialise around him. He used the knives to effortlessly tap every single brazilian in the area.

I was so afraid, blood was spilled everywhere. When it all was over ardiis looked in my direction and i knew that it was over, if they didnt stand a chance, then i wouldnt either, so i just gave up. Ardiis started walking
in my direction each step making the ground shake. When he got to me he just sat down on me saying that i got cold and he needed to warm me up. After a while he took me inside the smelly basement again and took his clothes off. He started smelling me and licking my ear, and then he suddenly got very embarrased and told me i can just leave.

Turns out that this was a huge misunderstanding, this whole time he thought that i was a chocolate egg and he wanted to eat me. The disappointment on his face when he realized the mistake he had done was palpable, a tangible testament to the depth of his sorrow.

diversity hire yeeeeeee

maybe youre overqualified lmfao companies are scared to
pay u properly so they get only what they need

thats horriblewtf

you got two options

be consumed by hate and jealousy and become an incel

move on work harder and succeed in your next opportunity

allat break it down to 8 words

The only bright(and sad) thing that I can tell you is that this is very common in many university and I personally have seen this happen to me and my friends. I also went through the same thinking process so you are not alone. At the end of the day my friends and I were placed in companies which we felt we deserved. So just let this out of your mind and focus on your next.
Also a pro tip for any life situations: LIFE IS UNFAIR.

Bro, your profile looks stacked AF, you'll get a job easily dw. diversity hiring isn't going anywhere you'll see this situation in every big tech company

Btw, can you DM me any of your coding profiles ?

That's sad. Many big companies have something called diversity hiring where try would prefer hiring women over men but that only works if both are similarly skilled. But if as u say u are that skilled, so much so that the company would be at a loss not to hire u, they HAVE to go for u. If they didn't, it sucks. Can't say anything to comfort u honestly bcoz it's a shitty situation. But u are skilled enough that u can land an equally amazing job if not better. Don't be too discouraged.

My friend had a quite similar situation where he had his interview go really well with an automobile manufacturing company but they decided to hire a girl from our class instead who isn't as skilled as him just for diversity. But he didn't get discouraged and managed to land a similar paying opportunity(albeit in a completely different field).

So chin up and don't give up

Don't worry bro. If what you say is true, you will get hired by an equally good company, while she will be one of the first to be laid off if a massive lay-off happens again. Focus only on yourself. All the best.

Just curious, which university?

unlucky maybe it was something on ur behavioral interview?

mate thats terrible, but i'm 100% sure that you'l get something even better, just keep the focus and gl friend.

happens, just keep trying and you'll hopefully get what you deserve

"Tech bros will say they don't have the bandwidth for mentorship but suddenly, it opens up when it is a shawty."

"Older women care about younger women,
Older men care about younger women,
Society cares about the younger women"

just an unfortunate part of life brother, keep trying you will get another opportunity

actually terrible bro. fk them terrible company. Keep your head held high you'll find a good job.

This year has been awful in terms of hiring in tech. I know cuz I'm at a high position and am aware of restrains set on us while hiring engineers for our teams. Just be patient. If you're good, you'll catch up real soon.

That’s super fucked man. I’m sorry about that.
All I can say is keep going for jobs, I guess - you’re clearly very, very qualified, more so than most. The fact you didn’t get the job is BS. You got it though, you’ll get a great job I’m sure (hopefully better than the one that bs’d you out of a job…). Don’t turn too bitter, it really is unfair and sucks, but being bitter about it will just make it harder for you, best option is to keep going. You got it man

Fake story + allat

you are stacked lol you deserve better
gl

dont blame the women. blame the company. so unprofessional of them, but reality is always like that and social class is exist. so dont give up ;)

dont care about them. you know your worth, but dont let arrogance cloud your judgement, dont be proud, see where you might have made a mistake, HOWEVER minuscule it may be , you know your strengths and weaknesses, only you know, and only you change, but dont let let this define your future, keep moving forward, and keep applying, keep grinding those interviews. people apply to 100s of jobs and get into ONE. you just gotta keep grinding. this is a stepping stone to your success.

you've come so far, (wtih the difficult upbringing, good uni, good GPA, good adademics, allat) you got it all, why let this 1 failure define you?? issa blip on the graph G. thats all it is.

its only a failure if you give up here.

now about the woman thing. who cares? theres plenty of fish(companies) in the sea. personally if i was u i would try contract work, (ur in software) and you would excel in that area, build up your portfolio, build up your CV, become reliable, increase your rates, let your work speak for itself, volunteer, you will find more success that way then to just go for the best company, i feel like that should be a good end goal for most people in this industry.

keep going mate, america is fked in a lot of ways but there are a lot of good people too
but on a serious note, 100t flair isnt helping

I feel you man.
I graduated this year as the department topper of the college. Got a good internship but now it's almost a month and the IT market is so weird here in India.
So many openings but no one wants a fresher and being a guy, puts you at an additional disadvantage.
Wanna Collab on GitHub or something?

One thing I'll like to tell you which my senior told me.
Sometimes companies observe you and once they feel you're overqualified they DONT take you in because they know you can start making demands (given they'll underpay you) and that they'll be dependent on you more given your quality of work.
Hence they don't want to fall in this pit and reject you. Happened with me where they wanted me to sign a bond and many conditions were enforced and I didn't take it up.

An obstacle in life is just a new opportunity- Angel when ardiis blocks the road
Jokes aside not a big deal new opportunities will come

cant do anything about it but move on and try again. sorry about your situation but i have no doubt you will find a good job eventually with your skillset. perhaps working on your social skills more would give you a more competitive chance.

good luck

also kinda weird you posted this on vlr

lil bro thinks it is LinkedIn KEKW