Life advice thread

Bros, real talk from a drunk college student who was semi pro in hs. You guys gotta touch grass. Vlr is fun and shit, but make sure you do something productive. Doesn't have to be work or some shit, but life feels better when you can look back and see how you've improved. Pick up a language or instrument. Work part time. Exercise. Start small build your way up. And despite what you or other may think finding love doesn't count towards this. I've dated some incredible women and a couple men in my life and let me tell you. I may not regret it, I definitely could've done better with my life. I dated an actual model and felt so happy and overjoyed at the time, but 20 years from now I won't remember that all too well. What I'll remember from this time is how I performed at a concert, or played val competitively for my hs and won tourneys. Get the life achievements you desire. Because that's what's make you happy when you look back on your time. Not the YouTube videos. Not the shoes you bought. Not the dates you had. If you guys have any additional statements, say them below. Let's help the younger users avoid the pitfalls we fell into

Edit: if for whatever reason you feel alone a like life has no meaning, I feel you. Reach out to me on here or insta (amboreal) and I'll listen to whatever you have going on. Nobody deserves to feel isolated

bro who are you + allat + didn't ask + ratio

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Real talk from a 6x csjoe major winner and 4x iceland mvp, I agree

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u might as well stop talking bc no one readin allat

based.
adding: you have to actually go out and try to make friends. You can't just sit around and wait for ppl to read ur mind and come to you

Good advice ambo

Inspirational TED Talk 👏👏👏Standing ovation for you my friend

also, humans have a way higher capacity to survive than u think. I've struggled a lot with severe depression and somehow I'm still here. Surprises me sometimes but you just have to sit through the shit times. only thing that's constant is change. keep going and get help if u can

ugh making friends feels really hard even as an extroverted person :((

how do you balance academics and mental health? (question for everyone to answer)

in that year of highschool where everybody wants to jump off a bridge

biggest lesson i learned was to just let people enjoy things and stop worrying about intentions
there's a lot of peace in enjoying the mundane shit

caring about things like optics and why people say what they say just feels increasingly pointless the older i get

also that no matter where you are in life you will eventually look back and think you were a dumbass so never assume you have things completely figured out

Nothing matters tbh. I just want to chill. In the end you gonna have to work to pay your bills. You’re too tired to do anything else after work. On your day off you just want to chill because you’re too drained to do anything else. I’ve accepted that this is my life and it feels better than coping it’s gonna get better. I’m just at work clocking in waiting to clock out and at the end of the day, a cold beer is waiting for me in the fridge. Is it bad? Maybe but it makes me feel better

W advice ty

i read allat but vlr is my life

You seem like a good dude Ambo, I wish you the best in this life shit and hope you have a good life ahead.

i want to mention something very profound in the Quran that could relate:

“Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity.” - chapter 2:286

"And that man can have nothing but what he does (good or bad)." chapter 53:29

Your message was very touching, and you've given some valuable advice. As a as a Muslim, I'd like to add some reflections from an Islamic perspective.

In the Quran, Allah SWT reminds us in Surah Al-Asr (103:1-3), "By time, Indeed, mankind is in loss, Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience."

So, in Islam, we're encouraged to improve ourselves not only in worldly matters but also in our faith and moral character. Whether we are learning a new skill, exercising, or being productive in our work, we should also aim to enhance our understanding of our Deen (religion), practice good manners (akhlaq), and increase our service to others (khidma).

You mentioned finding happiness in achievements, and this rings true in Islam as well. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said, "The best of people are those that bring most benefit to the rest of mankind" . So, our achievements should also aim at benefiting others and serving our communities.

On the subject of loneliness and feelings of isolation, it's very kind of you to offer a listening ear. I echo your sentiments and also encourage those feeling this way to reach out to others for support. Remember that in our faith, we are never truly alone. Allah SWT says in the Quran in (2:186), "And when My servants ask you concerning Me, indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me..."

Your message reminded me of another hadith, The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said:
"Take advantage of five before five:
your youth before your old age,
your health before your illness,
your riches before your poverty,
your free time before your work,
and your life before your death.”

This Hadith beautifully encapsulates the spirit of what you've said, brother. Just as you've pointed out, it's crucial to make use of our time and capabilities while we can.

Our youth is a time of energy and potential. We should harness this to not just learn and improve ourselves, but to contribute positively to the world around us. Health is a blessing that enables us to be productive, and wealth allows us to invest in beneficial ventures. Free time should be used to achieve beneficial goals and to grow as individuals, while remembering that life is a transient phase, a journey towards our final abode.