Life advice thread

Bros, real talk from a drunk college student who was semi pro in hs. You guys gotta touch grass. Vlr is fun and shit, but make sure you do something productive. Doesn't have to be work or some shit, but life feels better when you can look back and see how you've improved. Pick up a language or instrument. Work part time. Exercise. Start small build your way up. And despite what you or other may think finding love doesn't count towards this. I've dated some incredible women and a couple men in my life and let me tell you. I may not regret it, I definitely could've done better with my life. I dated an actual model and felt so happy and overjoyed at the time, but 20 years from now I won't remember that all too well. What I'll remember from this time is how I performed at a concert, or played val competitively for my hs and won tourneys. Get the life achievements you desire. Because that's what's make you happy when you look back on your time. Not the YouTube videos. Not the shoes you bought. Not the dates you had. If you guys have any additional statements, say them below. Let's help the younger users avoid the pitfalls we fell into

Edit: if for whatever reason you feel alone a like life has no meaning, I feel you. Reach out to me on here or insta (amboreal) and I'll listen to whatever you have going on. Nobody deserves to feel isolated

bro who are you + allat + didn't ask + ratio

bro spittin

cant format for shit tho + allat

Real talk from a 6x csjoe major winner and 4x iceland mvp, I agree

babysasuke [#3]

bro spittin

cant format for shit tho + allat

Bro I'm 11 white claws deep, cut some slack onformatting

real

ambo69 [#5]

Bro I'm 11 white claws deep, cut some slack onformatting

switch to IPAs or tequila

White Claw drunk hits weird and makes you dehydrated

babysasuke [#7]

switch to IPAs or tequila

White Claw drunk hits weird and makes you dehydrated

Bruh I can't afford that. I just go where I don't get carded lmaooooo. But the weed beer is where it's at, I highly recommend

TheArcticArcher [#2]

bro who are you + allat + didn't ask + ratio

I feel sorry that your life is so meaningless you waste time tearing others down for trying to help people

ambo69 [#8]

Bruh I can't afford that. I just go where I don't get carded lmaooooo. But the weed beer is where it's at, I highly recommend

pray for my boy 🙏

glad youre having fun tough

u might as well stop talking bc no one readin allat

babysasuke [#10]

pray for my boy 🙏

glad youre having fun tough

WOOOOOOOOOOO it's vacation brother, my older brother graduated college and we traveled to celebrate. Life is so tough at times but so beautiful and wonderful

based.
adding: you have to actually go out and try to make friends. You can't just sit around and wait for ppl to read ur mind and come to you

brobeans [#11]

u might as well stop talking bc no one readin allat

You must learn from the mistakes of others. You will never live long Enough to make them all yourself - elaborate roosevelt

brobeans [#11]

u might as well stop talking bc no one readin allat

He spittin fax tho, hate on him all u want

Yessirskiiii [#15]

He spittin fax tho, hate on him all u want

not even 48 hours

realcavemanshit [#13]

based.
adding: you have to actually go out and try to make friends. You can't just sit around and wait for ppl to read ur mind and come to you

So true, the best advice I was ever given is that whenever you feel nervous about whether someone wants to talk to you or text, that they're usually feeling the same way. If if they secretly hate you like you fear, who cares. They can go fuck themselves

Good advice ambo

babysasuke [#16]

not even 48 hours

What's my blud waffling about

Cresp [#18]

Good advice ambo

Muchas Gracias cresp!

Inspirational TED Talk 👏👏👏Standing ovation for you my friend

Yessirskiiii [#19]

What's my blud waffling about

https://www.vlr.gg/220143/on-a-hiatus

ambo69 [#20]

Muchas Gracias cresp!

Come to dr we give you better drink than white claw for much cheaper. Our rum is 5 bucks a bottle here

brobeans [#22]

https://www.vlr.gg/220143/on-a-hiatus

All good. Just woke up and about to go to work. Had some time, never said i won't post, just meant that i will post less

brobeans [#22]

https://www.vlr.gg/220143/on-a-hiatus

Everything you say is automatically unfunny.

iamtheh [#21]

Inspirational TED Talk 👏👏👏Standing ovation for you my friend

Many thanks friend! Hope your weekend is as wonderful as you are

also, humans have a way higher capacity to survive than u think. I've struggled a lot with severe depression and somehow I'm still here. Surprises me sometimes but you just have to sit through the shit times. only thing that's constant is change. keep going and get help if u can

Cresp [#25]

Everything you say is automatically unfunny.

All my homies hate brobeans. Babysasuke is the broski but he just sided with brobeans, he on the wrong side of history fr fr

ugh making friends feels really hard even as an extroverted person :((

Yessirskiiii [#28]

All my homies hate brobeans. Babysasuke is the broski but he just sided with brobeans, he on the wrong side of history fr fr

I was just stating a fact OG

real Gs move in silence, next time skip the hiatus post and just take your time

yaiima0 [#29]

ugh making friends feels really hard even as an extroverted person :((

You're the best bro... Just put yourself out there, you got that shit man<3

ambo69 [#9]

I feel sorry that your life is so meaningless you waste time tearing others down for trying to help people

sorry i hurt ur feelings and that you have to be told to touch grass

yaiima0 [#29]

ugh making friends feels really hard even as an extroverted person :((

I feel you brother, but believe in yourself, invest in your hobbies, and always put your best foot foward no matter what

TheArcticArcher [#32]

sorry i hurt ur feelings and that you have to be told to touch grass

I hope one day you find peace with yoirself

how do you balance academics and mental health? (question for everyone to answer)

in that year of highschool where everybody wants to jump off a bridge

bigboy [#35]

how do you balance academics and mental health? (question for everyone to answer)

in that year of highschool where everybody wants to jump off a bridge

you will spend 75% of your life moving in a world where literally no one cares about academics

just do your thing, live your live, its all gonna be fine

bigboy [#35]

how do you balance academics and mental health? (question for everyone to answer)

in that year of highschool where everybody wants to jump off a bridge

I made sure I put my mental health first and foremost. I was severely bullied in hs for a large portion of it (I got into fist fights and shit on top of the verbal stuff) so I made sure I found ways to keep myself sane. Something that worked for me was to go running which helped a lot before I was hospitalized. My grades even improved slightly cuz I was in a better state of mind

biggest lesson i learned was to just let people enjoy things and stop worrying about intentions
there's a lot of peace in enjoying the mundane shit

caring about things like optics and why people say what they say just feels increasingly pointless the older i get

also that no matter where you are in life you will eventually look back and think you were a dumbass so never assume you have things completely figured out

bigboy [#35]

how do you balance academics and mental health? (question for everyone to answer)

in that year of highschool where everybody wants to jump off a bridge

as Ambo said, running is great, put 20 mins aside and just go on a little run. All the stress you felt from classes get swept away since you're dialed in on running. Mental reset and go for the next day.

Another thing that helped me was always sleeping on time. I set a time of 11pm every single day. No matter what I had to do, if I had homework the next day. I would go to sleep because that's what's important.

The only time I broke this rule was last week of school when I had to finish some art projects and I stayed up. But every day before that, focus solely on the work and one 11 hits stop everything and sleep. Sleeps important and it's something you should have some control over.

Cresp [#25]

Everything you say is automatically unfunny.

which part of what i said did u think was a joke? + you are weird/creepy and weird doesn't equal funny. like i would ever listen to you lmao

Yessirskiiii [#28]

All my homies hate brobeans. Babysasuke is the broski but he just sided with brobeans, he on the wrong side of history fr fr

he is so mad after outing him as a racist

Nothing matters tbh. I just want to chill. In the end you gonna have to work to pay your bills. You’re too tired to do anything else after work. On your day off you just want to chill because you’re too drained to do anything else. I’ve accepted that this is my life and it feels better than coping it’s gonna get better. I’m just at work clocking in waiting to clock out and at the end of the day, a cold beer is waiting for me in the fridge. Is it bad? Maybe but it makes me feel better

Simp4S0m [#42]

Nothing matters tbh. I just want to chill. In the end you gonna have to work to pay your bills. You’re too tired to do anything else after work. On your day off you just want to chill because you’re too drained to do anything else. I’ve accepted that this is my life and it feels better than coping it’s gonna get better. I’m just at work clocking in waiting to clock out and at the end of the day, a cold beer is waiting for me in the fridge. Is it bad? Maybe but it makes me feel better

I understand the sentiment friend, but it can get better and that's the hardest part. While there is nothing wrong with the life you presented, I believe it is only doing oneself justice to never stop attempting to do something new or different, even if the change is small like eating breakfast every day or going for a run once a week

babysasuke [#36]

you will spend 75% of your life moving in a world where literally no one cares about academics

just do your thing, live your live, its all gonna be fine

thanks babysasuke

brobeans [#40]

which part of what i said did u think was a joke? + you are weird/creepy and weird doesn't equal funny. like i would ever listen to you lmao

Word

W advice ty

Simp4S0m [#42]

Nothing matters tbh. I just want to chill. In the end you gonna have to work to pay your bills. You’re too tired to do anything else after work. On your day off you just want to chill because you’re too drained to do anything else. I’ve accepted that this is my life and it feels better than coping it’s gonna get better. I’m just at work clocking in waiting to clock out and at the end of the day, a cold beer is waiting for me in the fridge. Is it bad? Maybe but it makes me feel better

Well that's not very ubermensch of u

i read allat but vlr is my life

You seem like a good dude Ambo, I wish you the best in this life shit and hope you have a good life ahead.

TrialRunnr [#49]

You seem like a good dude Ambo, I wish you the best in this life shit and hope you have a good life ahead.

I hope so too brother, I shall go to sleep now though. 2 girls messaged me so I think I'll be happy, but I will deal with whatever happens tomorrow. I have a workout, 2 hours of Korean practice, and my last vacation day to look foward to and then I'll respond to the messages and continue on from there. Vlr has been very supportive of me in the past so I hope to repay all that I've been given by those in the community. I hope your day is a beautiful as your treatment towards me

ambo69 [#50]

I hope so too brother, I shall go to sleep now though. 2 girls messaged me so I think I'll be happy, but I will deal with whatever happens tomorrow. I have a workout, 2 hours of Korean practice, and my last vacation day to look foward to and then I'll respond to the messages and continue on from there. Vlr has been very supportive of me in the past so I hope to repay all that I've been given by those in the community. I hope your day is a beautiful as your treatment towards me

It sounds like you have a productive day ahead, take care brother.

i want to mention something very profound in the Quran that could relate:

“Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity.” - chapter 2:286

"And that man can have nothing but what he does (good or bad)." chapter 53:29

Your message was very touching, and you've given some valuable advice. As a as a Muslim, I'd like to add some reflections from an Islamic perspective.

In the Quran, Allah SWT reminds us in Surah Al-Asr (103:1-3), "By time, Indeed, mankind is in loss, Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience."

So, in Islam, we're encouraged to improve ourselves not only in worldly matters but also in our faith and moral character. Whether we are learning a new skill, exercising, or being productive in our work, we should also aim to enhance our understanding of our Deen (religion), practice good manners (akhlaq), and increase our service to others (khidma).

You mentioned finding happiness in achievements, and this rings true in Islam as well. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said, "The best of people are those that bring most benefit to the rest of mankind" . So, our achievements should also aim at benefiting others and serving our communities.

On the subject of loneliness and feelings of isolation, it's very kind of you to offer a listening ear. I echo your sentiments and also encourage those feeling this way to reach out to others for support. Remember that in our faith, we are never truly alone. Allah SWT says in the Quran in (2:186), "And when My servants ask you concerning Me, indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me..."

Your message reminded me of another hadith, The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said:
"Take advantage of five before five:
your youth before your old age,
your health before your illness,
your riches before your poverty,
your free time before your work,
and your life before your death.”

This Hadith beautifully encapsulates the spirit of what you've said, brother. Just as you've pointed out, it's crucial to make use of our time and capabilities while we can.

Our youth is a time of energy and potential. We should harness this to not just learn and improve ourselves, but to contribute positively to the world around us. Health is a blessing that enables us to be productive, and wealth allows us to invest in beneficial ventures. Free time should be used to achieve beneficial goals and to grow as individuals, while remembering that life is a transient phase, a journey towards our final abode.