So we've been together for 5 years now and I have a couple of issues. Sometimes when I play ranked valorant, I always tell her that it is important and I can't leave my game because every round counts but for some reason, she still calls me out when I am in a middle of a ranked game to get a delivery outside or when she is telling me to do chores. I always do chores when I am not in a ranked game so I don't get her attitude. Awhile ago she is also leaving for work and I see that it's about to rain so I told her to grab her umbrella because she might get wet (she has no car umbrella). She initially tells me that she's okay but when I said "Why can't you respect what I say, it is about to rain, can you listen to me for a sec", she says in a high pitch voice almost screaming "Why tf you talk a lot of shit, blabla" then she grabs her umbrella from the porch. I don't even know what to feel anymore. My life only revolves around work (work from home), valorant, and lately I started going to the gym at least twice a week. Any inputs would help. Thanks.
My girlfriend doesn't respect me
So we've been together for 5 years now and I have a couple of issues. Sometimes when I play ranked valorant, I always tell her that it is important and I can't leave my game because every round counts but for some reason, she still calls me out when I am in a middle of a ranked game to get a delivery outside or when she is telling me to do chores. I always do chores when I am not in a ranked game so I don't get her attitude. Awhile ago she is also leaving for work and I see that it's about to rain so I told her to grab her umbrella because she might get wet (she has no car umbrella). She initially tells me that she's okay but when I said "Why can't you respect what I say, it is about to rain, can you listen to me for a sec", she says in a high pitch voice almost screaming "Why tf you talk a lot of shit, blabla" then she grabs her umbrella from the porch. I don't even know what to feel anymore. My life only revolves around work (work from home), valorant, and lately I started going to the gym at least twice a week. Any inputs would help. Thanks.
bobkiller [#5]wrong place to ask lil bro half of these people have never talked to a woman
i have talked to my mother and teachers thank you very much
Your girlfriend seems pretty toxic sometimes but just because someone doesn't take your advice doesn't mean they don't respect what you said.
Her getting rained on is personally not really a hill i'd die on imo, she probably just wanted to take her chances and not have to carry it around.
If she really doesn't respect what you have to say it would show itself in something much more important
cronintho [#11]Talk to her directly. VLR isn't the place for relationship advice my duder.
I already did. But it just keeps happening.
Nachtel [#7]Your girlfriend seems pretty toxic sometimes but just because someone doesn't take your advice doesn't mean they don't respect what you said.
Her getting rained on is personally not really a hill i'd die on imo, she probably just wanted to take her chances and not have to carry it around.
If she really doesn't respect what you have to say it would show itself in something much more important
Thanks for this. This is just one of the few occasions where I feel like this. Another example would be she would give my old clothes to her siblings. It's fine with me but I told her that next time, she should ask me first before making those decisions. It's getting kinda tiring. I always tell her these stuff but it just keeps happening and she gives me that attitude and it pisses me off. She doesn't even apologize sincerely, she just stays quiet and does her own thing. If she would apologize, it's because I'm telling her the stuff that she did wrong based on my perspective but it still keeps happening.
Tosspoa [#13]Respect is not given, It's earned
I pay our rent, I have a car (which we use to get groceries, etc) and I take care of my gas, and she takes care of the other bills like electiricty, internet, food... How else would I earn that?
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MaTrix96 [#17]I pay our rent, I have a car (which we use to get groceries, etc) and I take care of my gas, and she takes care of the other bills like electiricty, internet, food... How else would I earn that?
Wtf bro it's nothing with the money either talk to her about the situation face to face or let her do w/e she wants i mean stop caring of her for a while is the solution
ballsinyojaws [#25]it's aight brodie, just let Jason Luv get a piece of her and she'll be fixed
Adam22 would recommend this
Vuzy [#24]Wtf bro it's nothing with the money either talk to her about the situation face to face or let her do w/e she wants i mean stop caring of her for a while is the solution
Will try this.
MaTrix96 [#17]I pay our rent, I have a car (which we use to get groceries, etc) and I take care of my gas, and she takes care of the other bills like electiricty, internet, food... How else would I earn that?
By expressing how you feel and not letting she always get her way, you don't need to be an asshole, but if you need to make sure she knows she can't just be a bitch all the time too. It seems like you care too much about little things too, maybe also just relax a bit and let her do something stupid onde in a while, and use it as exempe when she is doing it again.
MaTrix96 [#17]I pay our rent, I have a car (which we use to get groceries, etc) and I take care of my gas, and she takes care of the other bills like electiricty, internet, food... How else would I earn that?
You need to have thrive and a passion for something. No woman respects a man that is not going anywhere. I don't know whether or not this applies in your situation but it's worth thinking about. If you've become complaisant, you need to change that.
bingbongbing123 [#32]Maybe you are not having enough sex and all you do is play VALORANT. You don't realize how sex can improve relationships
He doesn't have the respect to get it. He needs to stop being a loser Val addict and get a life that she can be proud of.
bingbongbing123 [#32]Maybe you are not having enough sex and all you do is play VALORANT. You don't realize how sex can improve relationships
We do it almost everytime since we live together. I'd say about 3-4 times a week when she's safe. I also satisfy her sometimes but not everytime (leave her wanting more).
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