I know i like to shitpost here, but today i need serious advice.
If i have friends but everytime i hang out with them and i go home i feel unhappy, should i stop meeting them? Or any suggestion?
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i mean honestly if your social life doesn’t depend on them i would just stop hanging out with them. it’s what i did with most of my friends from high school since a lot of them were super fake and whatnot. worked out great for my mental health, started hanging out with friends from a club sports team that i was on and it worked out great. now i don’t have friends since i’m on a gap year and moved away from my hometown :(
Im moved away from hometown too although i dont have a lot of friend in hometown too kekeke, all of them are moving to other places. And its not depend on them. Should just look new friends right? Want to go to gym but its expensive like 300.000 rupiah here could eat for 2 weeks with that money. Hear that u can workout without gym but hear people telling thats its not working too u need to go to gym. Is that true?
i think something that could help would be to find an affordable hobby, it’s a great way to find people with similar interests. as for the gym thing i don’t think it’s absolutely necessary if you just want to get into shape, although if you want to build muscle and stuff i would recommend, but not if you can’t afford it. i’m sure there are plenty of ways to build muscle and work out without going to the gym. dunno
If your circle of friends doesn't make you comfortable then you should try to make new friends, however the problem may be yourself, go to a psychologist and talk to him about your life, maybe this is just some insecurity of yours that is reflecting in your social life and prevents you from enjoying your friendships. Good luck!
This is not only unique to Asia, anywhere with many conservatives mental health is very much left aside. Here in Brazil it is normal when someone says that he is not feeling well mentally to be called gay, that this is bullshit, that he is spending too much time on his cell phone, or that he misses going to church. It is not easy but if you have self-love you have to create strength to break this fear and seek treatment. There is always someone who cares about you and can help you/give you strength to continue :)
Try to look uninterested / try ignoring them when they say those jokes.
I think it'll work, eventually they will ask you if you aren't comfortable.
OR
Try to act like you developed a new set of friends and your current friends will feel left out, they will eventually try to win you back and bow over you.
May I know what kind of jokes they were saying?
Works 50% of the time.
at some point you will need to cut them off, not saying immediately but you will come to a point where you have to decide
in the past my friends and i would find really crude shit funny; stuff like racist/homophobic jokes and slurs etc. they were pretty common at the time but eventually like any normal human being i grew out of it -- realized it was edgy and forced, made people feel like shit, and just in general cringe -- but they never did. even now they act the same way, say the same harmful garbage
lots of people mature and realize they used to be dumb and say dumb things (myself included). but some people just never learn
Honestly, as complicated or maybe as embarrassing it may sound you really need to talk to them about what makes you uncomfortable and set your boundaries. Ive done that a lot of times and it helps...obviously there are going to be some people who are still going to do whatever they want regardless
and at the point you should just try to find new friends..ik making new friends is pretty hard but if you have a brother or something you can start with that...the most easiest way to make friends is obviously by having shared hobbies with someone..honestly tho its ok if you don't share any hobbies but anyone who respects you and your boundaries you should definitely befriend them ..i hope you find some new friends man
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