I don't understand what's wrong with calling someone fat. People can be mean but that's how it is if you choose to stand out. Do you expect to not be called out when you're kinda the spot light? It's like going out half naked and not expecting eyes and criticism on you. When faced with problems shouldn't you be facing it instead of running from it. Problems never end but the effect on you can be mitigated if you face it.
Tldr: face problems not run away from it
Edit: if it's a condition or genetics I totally disagree with calling someone out
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i think body positivity is fine within reason, but what i don’t find fine is people praising an inactive, lazy, naturally skinny person for being the perfect image of health, while bullying and insulting a healthy, overweight person who exercises 3x a week. weight ≠ health and people need to realize that not all fat people are going to die in 10 years.
Theres a difference between encouraging someone to lose weight and belittling them for being a certain way imo. Instead of just calling someone fat maybe it would be alot more easier and more encouraging to phrase it in a way that points it out as being unhealthy but also not toxic or confrontational.
There are a large variety of reasons why a person would be obese, whether it be they have some type of disorder that makes it difficult to lose weight or they're just a lazy little fuck.
If they're lazy, then I completely agree with calling them out. There are so many resources available to people to lose weight that it is not necessarily easy to live a healthier lifestyle, but the path to becoming healthier is very clear and obvious.
There is a much grayer area if this is a disorder. Many obese people became obese because of some type of trauma, or they have some type of medical disorder where it is difficult to not gain weight, like leptin resistance. For the trauma part, many people have for example been abused as children or abused by a spouse, and eating is a very common way that these people deal with this trauma. These are much more difficult to deal with, and it is incredibly unfair to namecall these people because of their weight because it's largely out of their control. Someone with leptin resistance literally doesn't stop feeling hungry, and abuse victims need a long and difficult recovery process to not only get that PTSD of their abuse out of them, but also to develop a healthy relationship with food.
TLDR
Being fat for no reason is bad, being fat for a reason is fine and reasonable and these people often are trying to not be fat anyway
You say "if it's a condition or genetics I totally disagree with calling someone out" which i agree with but how do you know? would rather not risk insulting someone and hopeing its not genetic. Also some people get mocked/called fat when they are only a little over average which is not ok. As long as they are healthy they shouldnt feel bad about their body. I do agree that people that are morbidly obese should be trying to do something about it instead of just playing victims BUT insulting someone is never the right answer, and to most "fat" is an insult.
How is being overweight the same thing as "choosing to be in the spotlight" what the fuck?? Are athletic people choosing to be in the spotlight with their build? Or skinny people with their build? This is such a weird thing to say. The way people dress and a person's weight does not invite comments from other people. They are minding their own business and you should mind yours.
sounds like you’re projecting to me. liking tall people is a preference. liking skinny people is a preference. neither of those preferences involve “mocking” them.
also no shit the taller boy will get chosen if the characteristics are the same. same way how the skinnier girl will get chosen if the characteristics are the same. just because you can’t control it doesn’t mean people cant have preferences about it. i’m not tall at all yet i do fine with finding significant others because i’ve worked on other aspects of myself to make myself more desirable. i don’t need height as an edge since i’m more interesting than 80% of taller guys.
work on yourself and stop crying about how someone’s preference is unfair
"go through lot of hardworks" you mean eating disorders? I don't think the standard of beauty should be obesity but let's not act like the standard look for models in the past has been unproblematic. For a long time and even now sometimes, model's body standards were maintained through unhealthy eating disorders and set unrealistic standards of beauty for women
it's called inclusiveness or body positivity or whatever the fuck they call it
im all in for being comfortable in their own skin, but people use body positivity to justify their unhealthy obsessive eating habits and say its cool to be 300 pounds
i mean sure okay do what they want idc im not bothered by what strangers do, but their funeral isn't too far away, prepare a guest invite list well in advance
people talk about how obesity is something they can control but sometimes it’s not that simple. the cause is what matters. genetics play a large role in weight, where someone could be active 5x more than a skinny person, yet still weigh 50 pounds more. additionally, mental health can be a huge factor, as some people simply do not have the mental capability to work on their physical appearance.
people falsely assume weight is the main factor of health but in most cases it isn’t. skinny people can be just as unhealthy as fat people, yet skinny people aren’t ridiculed nearly as much as fat people. why is that? if i’m being charitable towards them, people are just ignorant. but if people are using someone’s weight to ridicule them just because they find it fun, then that is fatphobia. however, i think people are usually called fatphobic because of their ignorance, not because of their malice.
this isn’t meant to excuse people who don’t have an issue with either of the two factors i mentioned either. if people are consuming large amounts of food and becoming heavy because they’re lazy, then they’ve put themselves in the way of being ridiculed and they deserve what they asked for. but, if people believe making fun of fat people is okay, then making fun of someone being really skinny just because they don’t eat or exercise should be okay too, right? if you disagree with that last sentence, then you’re probably fatphobic. it’s fine if you want to ridicule lazy fat people, but have that same energy for lazy skinny people too.
Obviously it's not healthy to be overweight, healthy at any size is stupid
but literally no proper self help program has ever started with making you feel worthless,
if your a asshole to someone fat your not doing it because you want to help them or some retarded shit, your doing it because you a cunt
why do you need to mock a fat person? i know that acting like it's normal to be fat is dumb and shit but why is the other option is mocking and making fun of it?
either encourage him or leave him alone it's not ur problem imo, i reached 100kg in 2021/2022 and close friends were always very polite and encouraging in telling me i need to lose that weight and i always agreed and started doing a diet and exercise more, but if someone who isn't close wanted to mock me about it i would just punch him lmao
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