VLR USERS IN RELATIONSHIPS COME

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Lucrix

im in hs and ive been dating this girl for 3 months. we've known each other since december and it's been going really well. we broke up briefly(like less than a week) about a month ago because she got scared and was afraid of committing long term. i understand where shes coming from, but summer is coming up and we go to two different places during the summer and i wanna ask her if she still thinks that. im not asking her to marry me, just asking her if she wants to be together through summer

idk if i should wait until we're both out of school to bring it up, or ask now

dude ive gotta get off vlr. im just using this shit to vent and this is the last place to do that🗿

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HenBabyH

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wrong site to ask

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Lucrix

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yea i realized that at the end, i just didn't want to waste that 1 minute of typing

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my friend cut his fucking wrist off because of a relationship so idek what to think about them anymore

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Lucrix

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LMFAO IM SORRY WHAT😭

it's not funny, that's just not something i was expecting to recieve

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aint shit funny

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Lucrix

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it's not funny

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cartixuzi

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whats not funny

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self harm

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Coures

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yeah it's uhh
rough

drugs are fucking terrible, don't do them

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Ullyr

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you only live once. You go for it always if there's even more than 1 percent chance just do it.

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If yall are super close rn, i wouldnt bring anything up -- youre in high school, enjoy the moments. If its meant to be, ur relationship will stay forever, but rather than worry about summer, have fun now, and when summer rolls around do ur best to make it work. If ur kind of drifting apart or something is going on, and such a conversation NEEDS to happen, then go for it

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Lucrix

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i js dont wanna lose her cuz this is the first time i'm not constantly worrying about whether or not im doing everything right cuz we have fun all the time

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FireII

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that means ur in a good spot! its just important to make sure both of you are always happy in ur situation currently, and being apart for the summer can cause a rift through that, but as long as u still communicate, do stuff together as much as u can, youll be good. one final bit id tell u is that do whatever u can for her, i mean everything, you want to make her feel super appreciated, just make sure u also feel appreciated.

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Lucrix

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oh dw. i love telling her how amazing she is(in detail dw) and i deadass can't be in a relationship if there isn't clear communication. idk why people don't do it more cuz it's so easy and it's so good to combat overthinking and anxiety

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FireII

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im jus saying cuz my friends back in high school were selling their relationships by making their girls mad at least once a week 😂

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Lucrix

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LMFAO i tease her a lot but she knows im only kidding

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its ok to ask this kind of question bro. i just married with my longtime gf last week and what i can tell you is:

take it easy. if you're still in HS there's high possibility that your partner still wanted to think about other things other than the relationship that you're both in. so my advice is be as supportive as you can towards her since she got a lot of things in the future that she may planned for herself. make her comfortable to reach those dreams/future plans until she finally realize that you're one of her goals to. My wife wanted to be a teacher soooo bad and i support her all the way and she currently still in a college so i'll make sure i'll give her the best support that i can to make her dream comes true

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Lucrix

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first off, congrats. really happy for you even if i dont know you

just out of curiosity, when did you guys meet(like was it in college) and how long have you guys been together? i agree that she's not entirely focused on the relationship which is fair. she's a year younger(im a junior), so technically im going to college before her but i plan to go to a boarding school after i graduate hs so technically we're goign to college at the same time

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first of all thank you so much! and yes we're both met when we're still in the college and actually been together for 4 years through the college. we're actually the same age and graduated together. just for the context im indonesian and in indonesia if you wanna be a teacher you need to take 1 extra year in college to get the certification and she's currently in that extra 1 year of classes

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Lucrix

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ah got it. im just worried that if we DO stay together for the next two years it'll be end bc of college

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Marcusgeez

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just ask her out, 3 months are still early though, but you can do all the fun stuff together while taking things a bit serious step by step so she doesn't have to worry. its the combination of both for me. you'll figure that out buddy don't worry

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Ask her ASAP

The sooner the better

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dont leave it to last second

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before u get off vlr, take this advice and ask her. it doesnt hurt to ask. and if shes not ready now, ask again later. show her ur still interested. the only time you back off is if you know she lost interest. keep it while u still have it though, so there's no regrets. also dont be a little bitch! you got this.

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Lucrix

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thank you. fnc fans are so nice. i'll ask her after her exams so if it does backfire i dont mess up her mental

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donkkomong

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W. keep us updated mate.

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Sk00d

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good, ask her asap man, the sooner the better

one thing I've learnt about relationships in my life is that waiting is bad in most cases

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BigmansFacialHair

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if u like her ask her, i mean its only hs. U still gota long time.

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Just ask. Communication is key. She may very well have been thinking about the same. The issue is how you ask. She may take offence if you pose it accusatorily, as if she wouldn't want to commit. Maybe bring up the summer casual in a conversation and get talking about it naturally. Don't overthink it, its just a conversation to be had.

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Lucrix

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yea my only problem is that she has long term commitment issues(which is why she didn't want to say ily yet which is totally fair), but that was like a month ago and i feel like a lot has happened to so maybe she's changed her mind

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After 3 months, saying I love you can still be hard, especially in high school. You are young, I know I was still figuring myself out at that age and dating was kinda hard at times back then. So try and talk to her, no matter what's changed, because realistically, you will both continue to grow and change as people. I don't know you and I can't speak to your specific situation, but I can bet that you'll feel relieved having spoken to her about it honestly and respectfully, rather than allowing it to become a 'what if'.

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Lucrix

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im surprised by how helpful vlr users are. tysm

#31

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I doubt 90% of vlr users would be of any assistance, me included.

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If you've dated for 3 months and already broken up once, at least one of you is not ready for a relationship 🗿

go next

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Lucrix

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it was for 5 days and it was like a month into the relationship. she broke up cuz like this is one of the first like REAL relationships she's had and kinda just overthought shit

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babysasuke

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yeah its not worth it

either accept this as normal behavior and be constantly on edge or find someone mature enough to handle a relationship

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This is your time bud to ask her out. There won't be a second chance trust me.

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aa

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Wait, GIRLS EXIST?!???