the 2 options that seem like the best within my budget are
asus tuf f15, i7 12700h with rtx 4070. HD screen, 144hz and 300 nits max brightness with a 18ms response rate and 16gb DDR4 ram
legion 5 with ryzen 7735HS with rtx 4060. QHD screen, 165hz and 350 nits max brightness with a 3ms response rate and 16gb DDR5 ram
the former costs about $80 more
don't say buy a desktop, I need it to be portable
edit: forgot to mention asus has a better battery life and legion seems to have better cooling