It's been 6 months since my gf cheated on me and left me.
I still see her everyday and miss her a lot 😞
At first I was so pumped up and thought I'll be doing better than her but she's the one living her life, I miss her a lot :/
Any uncommon advices anyone got to move on? ^_^
Was on a call with canyon rn, he burst into tears. It was the first time I've heard him crying in our 12 year long friendship. He told me that just before the walkouts, his gf and her bf(the guy she was cheating with) went over to canyon's house and changed a few things, canyon checked his house and found nothing. After his underpaid job he was emotionally hurt so just before getting up he opened his gf Instagram to see insta reels, but, what he saw was disgusting.
(I got tired 😩 I can't finnish this sry)
At first I was so pumped up and thought I'll be doing better than her but she's the one living her life, I miss her a lot :/
Focus on yourself. This is not only heartbreak but jealousy and insecurity in yourself. Find what things in your life you think you're not "doing better" in. School, career, gym, social... And channel your energy into bettering yourself there and being secure in yourself.
Also put it in your head that she don't think about you
TrialRunnr [#4]man Ik how it feels, I was in a similar situation but you deserve better brother, you just have to wait for that one day when you wake up and feel nothing for her, Its tough to move on when you are seeing her everyday tho luckily mine moved across the world.
I was in a similar situation
Stop making up fake scenarios to encourage him
Hard2Decipher [#9]I was in a similar situation
Stop making up fake scenarios to encourage him
??????
who tf are you to know what I have gone through and why are you pretending like this is an uncommon scenario?
TrialRunnr [#10]??????
who tf are you to know what I have gone through and why are you pretending like this is an uncommon scenario?
Fresh off the boat, from reddit, kid? heh I remember when I was just like you. Braindead. Lemme give you a tip so you can make it in this cyber sanctuary: never make jokes like that. It's survival of the fittest and you ain't gonna survive long on VLR by saying stupid jokes that your little hugbox reddit friends would upvote. This ain't reddit, kid. This is VLR. We have REAL intellectual discussion, something I don't think you're all that familiar with.
Hard2Decipher [#12]Fresh off the boat, from reddit, kid? heh I remember when I was just like you. Braindead. Lemme give you a tip so you can make it in this cyber sanctuary: never make jokes like that. It's survival of the fittest and you ain't gonna survive long on VLR by saying stupid jokes that your little hugbox reddit friends would upvote. This ain't reddit, kid. This is VLR. We have REAL intellectual discussion, something I don't think you're all that familiar with.
man stfu and go troll some other thread dimwit
TrialRunnr [#10]??????
who tf are you to know what I have gone through and why are you pretending like this is an uncommon scenario?
He's baiting, I get your point :)
Luckily in 6-7 months I'll go to a univ and hopefully never see her again
LyCan52 [#6]Was on a call with canyon rn, he burst into tears. It was the first time I've heard him crying in our 12 year long friendship. He told me that just before the walkouts, his gf and her bf(the guy she was cheating with) went over to canyon's house and changed a few things, canyon checked his house and found nothing. After his underpaid job he was emotionally hurt so just before getting up he opened his gf Instagram to see insta reels, but, what he saw was disgusting.
(I got tired 😩 I can't finnish this sry)
Ain't no way
You don’t miss her, you miss the idea of having a gf.
She was a fucking terrible person to you and was definitely not the right person. I understand you want a connection like that again but she is not the one and will never be.
Focus on growing yourself, strengthen your relationships with people you trust won’t switch up like she did, and distance yourself from things that remind you of her.
It’s not healthy to still be attached, especially after what she did you. You deserve better.
Time heals all wounds brother I hope things get better
Hi everyone,
I broke up with my girlfriend a few days ago on 13th of Feb, this was going to be the first Valentine's Day for me where I was actually going to do real stuff. But unfortunately, my luck proved to be the worst. I broke up after 11 months of relationship with this girl who's been my classmate for long. I KNOW that vlr.gg is the LAST place where I should be talking about this because most of you have remained single and find relationships cringy, but I couldn't help myself finding new ways to vent my thoughts into the community I've got. So I'd actually love to hear your experiences so I feel like I'm not alone going through all of this and maybe I get an advice or two on how to deal with the breakup.
The worst thing about the breakup is that my exams are just around the corner and I have no motivation to study or do anything at all. I haven't eaten anything since the last 2 days I'm just surviving on water. Yes I tried eating but trust me it didn't work. Today, as I was walking through the hallway in the school being totally depressed, I saw her kissing the guy I always feared that she would cheat me for and I was broken. I had an anxiety attack after watching that scene and felt like I poured my heart and everything to the love of my life and she did me that dirty. When I got home I saw that she uploaded stories with her new boyfriend on Instagram and I instantly unfollowed her and have been crying since 6 hours now. I know I'm a man and should not act like pussies at this time since the society doesn't want men to show feelings to this extent. But I'm actually heartbroken and I can't help myself. My parents are worried a lot and I don't want to tell them that I was in a relationship so I told them that I'm not performing good at school so they are like really worried. I tried playing Valorant or chess, the two things I loved to do in my spare time but that didn't work. I made my chess.com profile with her and we played the first match against each other and I started thinking about her and in Valorant I used to play only Jett so I told her one day that she's my Jett and yeah sounds cringe but it is what it is. Also I'm locked in my school for this year that means I can't change my school and in '24 I'll start college so that means for 1 full year I'll see her and her new boyfriend in my class everyday. I think I have the most heartbreaking end to my love story.
Also this website is really active right now because of lock in so I think that I will definitely feel better when experienced people enlighten me with their thoughts. Sorry for venting on vlr too.
Ailed [#18]You don’t miss her, you miss the idea of having a gf.
She was a fucking terrible person to you and was definitely not the right person. I understand you want a connection like that again but she is not the one and will never be.
Focus on growing yourself, strengthen your relationships with people you trust won’t switch up like she did, and distance yourself from things that remind you of her.
It’s not healthy to still be attached, especially after what she did you. You deserve better.
Time heals all wounds brother I hope things get better
"time heals all wounds" I'd say I did get better at controlling emotions but i still feel the pain, miss her every hour and sometimes think about her first thing in the morning
And I didn't chose to be attached to her :( maybe it was my first love and i lost my virginity to her so im just too much into her idk, just hoping that I get into a good uni in 6 7 months so that I never have to see that girl again
canyon [#16]He's baiting, I get your point :)
Luckily in 6-7 months I'll go to a univ and hopefully never see her again
Also bro this aint a competition of who does better so stop thinking about it that way, dont compare your life to hers even tho she might be doing better than you right now.
Work on yourself and good things will happen.
stop dwelling on the past
whats done is done and theres truly no point in obsessing over her. you gotta move on and focus on your own life instead of daydreaming about what couldve been because that shit isnt real. every minute you spend thinking about her is another minute wasted. get your mind off of her, do the things that you are passionate about and love. that should be what u focus on everyday.
time wont stop and by the time you realize it, it might be too late. move on.
canyon [#19]U sure 😀
pls do not. While your gf was clearly at fault in this situation, Tate teaches to blame everyone else and society for your problems (so that you then turn to him).
aylez [#23]stop dwelling on the past
whats done is done and theres truly no point in obsessing over her. you gotta move on and focus on your own life instead of daydreaming about what couldve been because that shit isnt real. every minute you spend thinking about her is another minute wasted. get your mind off of her, do the things that you are passionate about and love. that should be what u focus on everyday.
time wont stop and by the time you realize it, it might be too late. move on.
Common aylez W + noted
also, you have to remind yourself that she probably isn't thriving as much as you think she is - people only post/brag about/etc the parts of their life that they know look good to others. She may actually not have bettered her life in any meaningful way. Focus on your other types of relationships: friends, family, coworkers.
canyon [#21]"time heals all wounds" I'd say I did get better at controlling emotions but i still feel the pain, miss her every hour and sometimes think about her first thing in the morning
And I didn't chose to be attached to her :( maybe it was my first love and i lost my virginity to her so im just too much into her idk, just hoping that I get into a good uni in 6 7 months so that I never have to see that girl again
It’s time to move on
You are waisting precious time on dwelling on something that is now only memories. The only thing that can change is you and you have to, there’s no other way too get over her.
Hard2Decipher [#12]Fresh off the boat, from reddit, kid? heh I remember when I was just like you. Braindead. Lemme give you a tip so you can make it in this cyber sanctuary: never make jokes like that. It's survival of the fittest and you ain't gonna survive long on VLR by saying stupid jokes that your little hugbox reddit friends would upvote. This ain't reddit, kid. This is VLR. We have REAL intellectual discussion, something I don't think you're all that familiar with.
thx for the copypaste
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