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In my experience, I had to accept my current reality and know without a doubt that I will relapse at some point. This is just who I am and its impossible to fully contain my unresaonable sexual desire. At the time, I was mentally exhausted of it, and just had so much self-pity that I felt pathetic. I couldn’t take it, so I had to talk to someone about it. That was the best decision, because the people who I talked with made me realize that it is simply irrational to completely devoid yourself of pleasure, as doing so is something a sociopath would do. Of course, everyone is different, but I had begun to accept who I was. It came with such a great relief. I became confident of who I was, willing to take bigger risks, had the time to do more meaningful things, turned towards a more spiritual life and became more fulfilled. Now, I don’t even feel the urge to do it anymore. I don’t know if this is normally how you do it, but that's how I observed myself doing no fap.
Hear me out. Instead of quitting masturbation, you should quit porn instead (at least for now if you really want to quit masturbation) I had porn addiction since I was a child and I successfully quit since 3-4 years ago. I still beat the meat at least once every 2 weeks but no porn. Counting days also won't help you either. For me counting days = you still expect yourself to relapse. I don't think it helps you at all in any way. Just remove porn from your life first. You will be relapsing but trust me you will get to that point where you won't even feel the need to watch.
Simp4S0m [#4]Hear me out. Instead of quitting masturbation, you should quit porn instead (at least for now if you really want to quit masturbation) I had porn addiction since I was a child and I successfully quit since 3-4 years ago. I still beat the meat at least once every 2 weeks but no porn. Counting days also won't help you either. For me counting days = you still expect yourself to relapse. I don't think it helps you at all in any way. Just remove porn from your life first. You will be relapsing but trust me you will get to that point where you won't even feel the need to watch.
Yes the biggest mistake was counting days. I remember being so disappointed in myself after losing a 103 day streak. It felt terrible, used to sometimes have fear over the number if I saw it anywhere.
valvenq [#5]Yes the biggest mistake was counting days. I remember being so disappointed in myself after losing a 103 day streak. It felt terrible, used to sometimes have fear over the number if I saw it anywhere.
Yup. Counting days feels like you do it for your own ego like "Hey look at me I finally did 87 days without it!" I mean if that helps go for it but it was one of the reason why I constantly failed. Just felt like it was still part of my life lol
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